Sunday, January 7, 2018

I am Young and Married 👰💓💍

Marriage is the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship (historically and in some jurisdictions specifically a union between a man and a woman). As google states...but of course marriage is more in depth than just that. To me marriage is a bond that can’t be broken because it’s pure and true. Marriage is loving one another, having a connection with the right person, and having their backs no matter what. I think when you marry young is away to continue growing as a person, but also as a husband or wife. I say this because almost everything we learned is when we were young. Why not learn to be a wife or husband at a young age so when you have to help someone else, you have experience. Now, when I say young I am saying old enough to think, love, and do for yourself, not if your parents must give you permission. I am sure there is so much more that goes along with being married, but I am not married so I wouldn’t know much about marriage unless I see it or read about it.

I talked to a few people husbands and wives. And I was able to ask a few questions because they got married at a young age, so I figured they would know a thing or two.

    1. What does marriage mean to you?
    2. How long were you dating before getting engaged?
    3. When he proposed were you surprised, or did you already have an idea he was about to?
    4. Do you think you made a good decision by saying yes?
    5. How did you feel about marriage before getting married?
    6. How long you been married?
    7. How old were you on your wedding day?
    8. What are the ages of you and your spouse right now?
    9. Do you all have any kids?
    10. What advice would you give someone planning their weddings or thinking about getting married?

I asked my parents because they were married young and they are still together, so they are

Marriage to me means being a part of something bigger than yourself it’s becoming one unit for a greater purpose. We dated on and off, but we got engaged less than 6 months of dating. There was no real proposal, we just talked about marriage and set a date for February 13, 1993. I was excited about getting married. I know I made an excellent decision on marrying your dad. I never thought I would get married. It wasn’t in my plans, but it was in Gods’. On December 27 made 25 years for us, we were 19 years old when we got married. Yes, we have 3 children together. My advice for anyone planning a wedding or thinking about marriage is to talk about everything, like children, money, religion, your goals, and dreams should line up. Be equally yoke. Seek God to make sure that this is his plan for your life with that person.
- Mom 

Marriage means growth, true commitment, being selfishness, family, and a true bond. It is the he best learning curve ever and I am still learning. And most of all, this is a life long journey that I don’t have to be alone in. Saying yes to your mom was the second-best thing in my life. I never thought I would be open to marriage, had my heart broken twice, and believed that I was having the time of my life sleeping with so many different girls. My advice would be plan, plan, and plan some more. I did it right the first time. Make sure it's love not lust. When you take your vows make sure you really understand them. And be open minded, this is a learning preprocess with two people you may see everything the same, but there will come a time when you don't. The most important is communication and being true, don't tell half the story.


He was military, so we skipped the engagement part, went right to marriage and been together 3 years. The marriage was a mutual decision, no proposal lol. So, I already knew what was going was more of a spur of the moment thing. Yes, I think I made a good decision saying yes! I always thought marriage was the way to go. I felt that it symbolized commitment, love, and stability between 2 people. It was unifying to me, which was a good thing. I've been married 5 years as of last October. I was 18 when I got married. Today, I am 23 and he is 25. We have two kids 5 and 3. My advice is get married for the right reasons, not because of what others think. Take time to listen to one another and get to know each other's likes and dislikes so none of that is surprising AFTER tying the knot. Marriage is serious, and it's a whole lot easier to get married than it is to get divorced, so make sure the feelings are real, the vows are true, and each person is committed.

Yes, I made a good decision getting married. I wasn't always sure if marriage was for me. I came from a family where marriage wasn't a common factor, so this was a first. I thought of it as just a simple piece of paper until I actually did it. My advice to give someone thinking of marriage is be willing to put someone else before yourself, make sure you have good communication skills, and make sure the love is genuine. Without communication and true love, everything will fall apart. 

To me marriage means the start of your own family and an edition to your current family. We were dating 3 years before getting engaged. I had no idea he was standing outside in the rain with an umbrella I’m thinking we were about to head off to dinner as planned so I’m grabbing everything, and I thought I needed mine out my car then turned around to him on one knee. Yes! I made the right decision. When I was younger I never thought I’d get married because I didn’t believe that there was a guy out there that could keep me interested I was easily bored in relationships. In April it will be 2 years. I was 22 years old when I got married. Today, he’s 25 and I’m 24 years old. We have baby boy on the way! My advice is know that you don’t know everything about your significant other just yet. So, if considering marriage, you must be opening to change as well as compromising. Everything changes, your money, your time, your wants and if you’re independent and use to just up and going after marriage remember you will have to be accountable to your husband and vice versa. You must be fully committed to him/her and completely ready to give up all your single ways.

Marriage means being with my soulmate till the day I die and having a life time commitment with someone, and having a bond with someone forever. We dated for about 2 years before I got engaged. I already knew that he was going to pop the question. Lol YES!! I made the right decision. I was very happy, excited, anxious, and nervous. Before I got married I always said to myself after I graduate college and get a job lol but that never happened I got married while I was in school. I’ve been married for 2 years now. I was 22 years old, and Brett was 24. I am now 24 years old and he is 26 years old. No, we don’t have kids yet lol, but we want them. My advice is to tell people to take their time planning, set a budget!!!! And to be sure they want a commitment together! Don’t rush, and don’t panic enjoy life together!
Yes, I made the right decision. I always felt marriage was a nice thing and wanted to stick together with 1 marriage. My advice I would give would be listen to your wife lol and think of your significant before yourself! And always have good communication and be rational.

Marriage to me means commitment. Looking pass all the imperfections and loving your spouse flaws and all! Have someone you can put all your trust in. Supporting them. And having someone to laugh and talk to and goof off with. We were dating for about 2 1/2 year! I was surprised. But had an idea something was happening. Of course, I made the right decision saying yes! He is my greatest blessing. Marriage was always my dream goal and marrying the man of my dreams, and I did! We have been married for 9 months, one-year on April 22! I was 22 years old when I got married. I’m 23 and he’s 32, turning 33 January 19th. We don’t have any kids yet but they will be here soon enough hopefully! My advice takes all the help you can. And on your wedding day don’t stress it. The only thing that matters is the by the end of the night you and your spouse are married!
I think I made a great decision by saying yes. Prior to Amanda, I was a not a fan of it, the whole concept made me nervous and didn’t understand it to be honest. My advice is to take lots of time to plan and plan an additional 2,000 more than you originally budgeted for last minute stuff, try to plan and execute things for the wedding as it can be hell by yourself. Talk to each other see what each other’s life goals are, live with the person before getting married and honestly ask yourself can you spend a lifetime with that person.

My marriage means everything to me, we have good times and our bad times, but we always are there for each other no matter what. I love the fact that he will do anything for me and I will do anything for him. We have a beautiful family together and as long as we keep god first in everything that we do, I know that our love and marriage will always flourish. We were dating for one year before we got engaged. I had an idea he was about to because he was throwing major hints lol. Yes, I made a great decision. I thought marriage was a beautiful thing and I really couldn’t wait to marry my husband. We have been married for two years, will be three on the 20th of February. I was 22 years old when I got married. We are now 25 years old. Yes, we have 2 beautiful kids. My advice is to make sure you live together first ask about kids and long-term goals. Trust and communication will be your best friend.


Marriage means a lifetime of fun, hardships, and most importantly love with your best friend! We dated a year before getting engaged. I kind of had an idea, my family was so excited they kept acting funny, so I knew something was up. Absolutely, I know I made the right decision! Marriage has always been a beautiful thing in my eyes, I couldn’t wait until my day came. We have been married 2 1/2 years, 3 in May 6. I was 20 years old on my wedding day. Today, he is 24 and I am 22, soon to be 23 in a few weeks. Yes, we have one child, a beautiful baby girl. My advice would be do not procrastinate! My sister planned our wedding in 6 months because I procrastinated so much. Any boy was it hard doing it in that short of time!


 Marriage at a young age is not common anymore, but looks like we still have hope to have a long marriage ourselves one day. 

Monday, January 1, 2018

2018, Please Be Good to Us!

My past struggles will be my future success and this is my future.

DO NOT...  
Put yourself or others down
Say "can't"
Give up or give in
Compare yourself to others 

Be patient
Embrace the smaller things
Keep your dreams alive
Learn something new
Be you 

This is Only The Beginning 
2017, is gone and she taught us a lot. She gave some and took more than we expected, but for 2018 it will different. It must be different, right? We just ask that you be good to us until your time is up. And when it’s time to reflect we hope to nothing but good things, but if bad times do come. Let the good outweigh the bad.
This will be the year I get we get ourselves together. Don't take any BS that try and come your way, it’s not worth the stress. I see a lot of people on social media saying they not going to change, they going to be the same person they were in 2017, well that might be your problem. that's why you feel stuck, like your life isn't getting any better, or you are unhappy. But hey, that's just my opinion. To those that is willing to change for a greater purpose, more power to you and I hope all goes well. great things come to those whom wait, so if it hasn't happened yet just wait a little longer. This is just things to think about when moving forward with living your life. If it helps, I wish you nothing but the best. But if what I said went over your head, then I don't know what to tell you.
We pray for all our loved ones to stay safe from any hurt, harm, death, sickness, and anything else that may stand in our way for success.

Sometimes change is good. This is just the first day, make this day worth living the other 364 days.

Happy New Years to all!!
2018, the year of growth